Jill's Nuggets

Do you find it difficult to make decisions? It could be either daily decisions like what to wear or eat or much larger decisions about what to do with life savings or whether or not you should move house.

Do you spend a lot of mental energy stuck in the middle, deferring the decision? Maybe you make the decision, but you don't align your energy and your actions with the decision and so the feedback that you are creating for yourself is that you have made the "wrong" decision or you feel regret which undermines self-trust and confidence.

What might it look like if you made a values-based decision and lined up with it in each area of your well-being? You would likely have some self-supporting habits going on. Why do we like habits? They are much easier to sustain and lead to much better results than one-off occurrences, t…

This time of year brings attention to concepts such as growth, change, and goal setting.

Let's look a little closer at each of these.

GROWTH

One traditional notion regarding growth is that you are either growing or you are stagnant.

A few alternative ideas could be you are simply being, you are thriving in some areas and challenged in others, or you are content with what is and don't feel a need to produce or perform.

CHANGE

Recently, I had a fantastic conversation with one of my clients about how to respond to the question "How are you?" without either saying "Fine, thanks." or launching into a soul to soul with someone you don't have an intimate connection with.

Generally speaking, our conversation was surrounding honesty and boundaries and how to genuinely respond to this social nicety when quite frankly you feel like sh*t.

The problem with saying "Fine, thanks." if it's not genuine is that it does not provide an accurate emotional backdrop, which is important if you are going to be working alongside this person for more than a few minutes, and you both have the right to start from a place of integrity.

The problem with disclosing too much is that it may not be appropriate based on the context of the relationship and it robs focus from whatever the intended conversation is about.

Tomato soup is a staple comfort food for me, especially with a grilled cheese sandwich. Comfort food can be a healthy part of the emotional eating spectrum when it's not used to numb, avoid or distract from painful emotions. Healthy comfort eating includes intention, enjoyment, and satisfaction. It's also ok to give your favourite comfort foods an upgrade, such as from Campbell's Soup to homemade soup with a healthy kick. But if the packaging and the exact flavor is all part of the nostalgia, that's ok too:)

• 2 cans tomatoes

• 1 can coconut cream

• 4 cans water

• 1 tsp sugar

• salt to taste